Clutter Reduction/Organization
Today's tip:
Pack Rats
Every family has at least one, and some have several. While, of course, one can organize 10,000 things (check out a museum if you don't believe me), it's a heckuva lot easier to only have to organize 5,000 things. It's also, inevitably, cheaper (storage, whether in the form of storage lockers, storage furniture or even larger homes or home additions, is expensive) and can even be safer (less combustible materials about). Plus, and not to be morbid about this, but going through a packrat's affairs when they are ill, incapacited or deceased, is an exceptionally burdensome chore.
It's hard to say why some people are packrats, and they'll give all sorts of reasons. If you want a packrat to cut down on possessions, you'll need to address protests head-on. E. g.
* I may need this someday - Then we'll buy another one then.
* I want to keep it for sentimental reasons. Then we'll take pictures, or you'll choose a few sentimental things. You don't need to be surrounded by sentiment. Besides, don't you want to have the opportunity to have new stimuli, and create new sentiments?
* We have the room. And we should use that room for current things that we use, plus sometimes it's nice to have room and not use it at all.
* I still love it. Okay, then keep it, but you probably don't absolutely love everything. Are there a few things you no longer love as much?
* I still need it. Great! But do you need all of these things?
Sound familiar?
This doesn't need to be a battle, and it need not be a black-and-white, all-or-nothing struggle. After all, it's not like the packrat's going to be left with nothing once organization/clutter reduction is completed. And, perhaps s/he can keep a lot of his/her things, so long as they are stored better or more neatly or perhaps offsite. But piles of dusty possessions scattered everywhere? That's a situation that needs to be changed.
Here are a few strategies, which may or may not work. Tailor them to your situation as required.
* I may need this someday . Try storing the item(s) offsite. You don't need to live amongst items that are being saved for a rainy day. Make sure the packrat is well aware of the costs of storage and, if possible, s/he should be paying for it.
* I want to keep it for sentimental reasons. Since these items tend to be very personal, they'll need to go somewhere private. Whether that is onsite or offsite will depend upon volume, size and space considerations. And, they'll crowd out other personal items that need to be used, such as medications, undergarments, etc. Be sure that the packrat is well aware that s/he might be making it hard to find the things s/he truly needs. The packrat will need to take responsibility if love letters from decades ago sit on top of medication, the medication can't be found, and then it isn't taken.
* We have the room. This is really going to depend on what the stuff is. Some items may be repackaged so that they can be stored but still give something of an illusion of room (e. g. in a case or on a shelf or in a trunk, rather than strewn on a table).
* I still love it. Try repackaging the stuff. E. g. placing photographs into albums, or books and framed photos in a case or on a shelf. If the articles aren't too personal, they can be displayed for all to enjoy.
* I still need it. Make sure that items that are used regularly are kept at the forefront, so that they can be readily found and used.
* If possible, the packrat should pay for any additional storage or storage items (when it becomes a dollar issue to keep a bunch of old ticket stubs, most people think twice).
* If possible, the packrat should be required to clean the kept items, and not allowed to just let them gather dust (when it becomes a time and labor issue, many people think twice. It's when they can just keep dusty piles of junk and let them sit in their own dust that people think it's a good idea to packrat. The trick here is to go against inertia.).
* One strategy is to not permit a new -whatever- until an older -whatever- is discarded. E. g. let's say the packrat keeps dozens and dozens of sweaters. If s/he wants a new sweater, then an older one must be discarded. It doesn't matter which one, but the packrat has got to let go before taking in something new.
* Another strategy is to require the discarding of a certain number of items per week, until the packrat's personal area is far less cluttered. Probably no more than five items should be required. Be sure to lay down the ground rule that parts of an item count as parts and not a whole. E. g. a pair of socks counts as one item, not two, and a 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle counts as one, rather than 1,000.
* There are people who secretly discard items that packrats have accumulated. I've never liked this strategy, as inevitably it will lead to a serious conflict. What the packrat needs is a sense of control and the mysterious loss of items goes against that 100%. I believe it's generally better to involve the packrat in the decluttering/organizing process.
Some people will never change their ways (and for some people this is a psychological disorder), but at the very least you may be able to ease some of the clutter. Best of luck!
Today's tip:
Pack Rats
Every family has at least one, and some have several. While, of course, one can organize 10,000 things (check out a museum if you don't believe me), it's a heckuva lot easier to only have to organize 5,000 things. It's also, inevitably, cheaper (storage, whether in the form of storage lockers, storage furniture or even larger homes or home additions, is expensive) and can even be safer (less combustible materials about). Plus, and not to be morbid about this, but going through a packrat's affairs when they are ill, incapacited or deceased, is an exceptionally burdensome chore.
It's hard to say why some people are packrats, and they'll give all sorts of reasons. If you want a packrat to cut down on possessions, you'll need to address protests head-on. E. g.
* I may need this someday - Then we'll buy another one then.
* I want to keep it for sentimental reasons. Then we'll take pictures, or you'll choose a few sentimental things. You don't need to be surrounded by sentiment. Besides, don't you want to have the opportunity to have new stimuli, and create new sentiments?
* We have the room. And we should use that room for current things that we use, plus sometimes it's nice to have room and not use it at all.
* I still love it. Okay, then keep it, but you probably don't absolutely love everything. Are there a few things you no longer love as much?
* I still need it. Great! But do you need all of these things?
Sound familiar?
This doesn't need to be a battle, and it need not be a black-and-white, all-or-nothing struggle. After all, it's not like the packrat's going to be left with nothing once organization/clutter reduction is completed. And, perhaps s/he can keep a lot of his/her things, so long as they are stored better or more neatly or perhaps offsite. But piles of dusty possessions scattered everywhere? That's a situation that needs to be changed.
Here are a few strategies, which may or may not work. Tailor them to your situation as required.
* I may need this someday . Try storing the item(s) offsite. You don't need to live amongst items that are being saved for a rainy day. Make sure the packrat is well aware of the costs of storage and, if possible, s/he should be paying for it.
* I want to keep it for sentimental reasons. Since these items tend to be very personal, they'll need to go somewhere private. Whether that is onsite or offsite will depend upon volume, size and space considerations. And, they'll crowd out other personal items that need to be used, such as medications, undergarments, etc. Be sure that the packrat is well aware that s/he might be making it hard to find the things s/he truly needs. The packrat will need to take responsibility if love letters from decades ago sit on top of medication, the medication can't be found, and then it isn't taken.
* We have the room. This is really going to depend on what the stuff is. Some items may be repackaged so that they can be stored but still give something of an illusion of room (e. g. in a case or on a shelf or in a trunk, rather than strewn on a table).
* I still love it. Try repackaging the stuff. E. g. placing photographs into albums, or books and framed photos in a case or on a shelf. If the articles aren't too personal, they can be displayed for all to enjoy.
* I still need it. Make sure that items that are used regularly are kept at the forefront, so that they can be readily found and used.
* If possible, the packrat should pay for any additional storage or storage items (when it becomes a dollar issue to keep a bunch of old ticket stubs, most people think twice).
* If possible, the packrat should be required to clean the kept items, and not allowed to just let them gather dust (when it becomes a time and labor issue, many people think twice. It's when they can just keep dusty piles of junk and let them sit in their own dust that people think it's a good idea to packrat. The trick here is to go against inertia.).
* One strategy is to not permit a new -whatever- until an older -whatever- is discarded. E. g. let's say the packrat keeps dozens and dozens of sweaters. If s/he wants a new sweater, then an older one must be discarded. It doesn't matter which one, but the packrat has got to let go before taking in something new.
* Another strategy is to require the discarding of a certain number of items per week, until the packrat's personal area is far less cluttered. Probably no more than five items should be required. Be sure to lay down the ground rule that parts of an item count as parts and not a whole. E. g. a pair of socks counts as one item, not two, and a 1,000-piece jigsaw puzzle counts as one, rather than 1,000.
* There are people who secretly discard items that packrats have accumulated. I've never liked this strategy, as inevitably it will lead to a serious conflict. What the packrat needs is a sense of control and the mysterious loss of items goes against that 100%. I believe it's generally better to involve the packrat in the decluttering/organizing process.
Some people will never change their ways (and for some people this is a psychological disorder), but at the very least you may be able to ease some of the clutter. Best of luck!